My
daughter is only ten but she's already obsessing about her weight.
She only eats a few bites of food a day. Should I worry about eating
disorders? Eating
disorders have become a major problem in American society. We've
raised our children to obsess about food. Magazines, television
programs, and even newspapers blare the message that "you
can't be too thin." It's fashionable to be unrealistically
skinny. These same magazines and newspapers report on well-known
models, actresses, and other celebrities, who have severe problems
with anorexia and bulimia. A young girl then turns on the television
and sees very thin people selling fattening foods. It's just not
fair!
Since thin is in,
fat is the obvious rebellion. Stress is resolved with food. Anger
is appeased with food. Sadness is assuaged by food. Unhappiness
shows up on the hips in a heartbeat, an easy feat given the typical
high-fat, low-fiber diet.
When you're raising
children, you must never emphasize weight. Instead, talk about
strength, fun and healthy foods, and strong muscles and sturdy
bones. The way to help a child stay at the correct weight is to
change her diet to healthier foods and her lifestyle to one that
is more active with plenty of outdoor exercise. If you have a
seven-year-old who is somewhat overweight, make sure she doesn't
put on any more pounds, and she'll eventually grow tall enough
to fit the weight she's carrying. Growing children should never
lose weight. Instead, they should get taller.
The two most common
eating disorders are bulimia and anorexia nervosa. Both are more
common in girls because boys are less affected by societal pressure
to be thin. Also, boys tend to be more physically active than
girls.
Bulimia is the
act of bingeing (eating uncontrollably) and then immediately purging
(making yourself throw up.) Very quickly, the enamel on the teeth
begins to be affected, and, in time, the esophagus can be damaged
by repeated exposure to stomach acids. Sometimes you'll find bite
marks on the knuckles because they've put their fingers down their
throat to gag. Bulimics tend to spend a lot of time in the bathroom
right after meals. Eventually, because they're not getting any
nutrients from their food, bulimics become very thin.
If you ask a ten-year-old
girl how she sees herself, usually you'll hear that she's "too
fat." In our society, many ten-year-olds have already been
on self-imposed diets.
When a child develops
anorexia nervosa, she stops eating altogether. This means the
child doesn't eat enough to maintain good muscle mass. Because
it has no food to digest, the body literally begins eating itself.
In a short time, anorexia sufferers become emaciated. They lose
the rounded contours of the shoulders. They have no buttocks.
Their legs are spindly because the thigh and calf muscles waste
away. Their electrolytes go out of balance, and they may stunt
their growth and delay puberty. In worst case scenarios, as with
singer Karen Carpenter, anorexia can be fatal.
Amazingly, anorexics
firmly believe they are carrying too much weight. They will never
be thin enough. It becomes impossible to swallow more than a bite
or two of food at a meal.
Both these diseases
result from attaching too much importance to food, making it a
reward or punishment or source of comfort. You should never send
a child to bed without dinner as a punishment or give an extra
cookie as a reward. This is how you raise a child who grows up
thinking that's what food is all about.
We don't have to
celebrate with food, and we don't have to deprive ourselves. You
shouldn't deliberately eat less on Tuesday because you ate too
much on Monday; you should only eat to satisfy your hunger. You
don't have to clean your plate. You don't have to miss dessert
because you didn't finish your salad. Instead, teach that food
is nothing but fuel. It's not that important in and of itself.
Food's only purpose is to properly fuel the
body and promote good health. |